So Long, Insecurity: You've Been a Bad Friend to Us
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So Long, Insecurity: You've Been a Bad Friend to Us

Hardcover – Unabridged, February 2, 2010

Price
$12.24
Format
Hardcover
Pages
368
Publisher
Tyndale House Publishers
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ISBN-13
978-1414334721
Dimensions
6.1 x 1.3 x 8.9 inches
Weight
1.25 pounds

Description

From Publishers Weekly Prolific Bible teacher and women's ministry leader Moore ( Get Out of That Pit ) moves away from her characteristic dead-on expositions of scriptural principles in her newest; the topic is insecurity, and the content, she admits, is close to an autobiography. Moore, always transparent with her own personal struggles, is refreshingly so throughout this text. Readers will be chortling in laughter one moment and sucking air the next as Moore exposes the many faces of female insecurity. The author names and claims each one, then defuses every bit of power these nonsensical inner voices possess by countering their lies with God's truth. Women, no matter what their age, battle against advertising's siren call for unattainable physical perfection; the habit of making a man's love the ultimate validation; and the worldly definition of success as money, power, and status. Moore uses personal essays, women's true confessions, expressive prayers, and lots of commonsense suggestions to jar women out of their insecure rut. Readers will delve into this work and find themselves comfortably uncomfortable, and this is a very good thing. (Feb.) Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. So Long, Insecurity: You've Been a Bad Friend to Us Beth Moore. Tyndale House, $24.99 (350p) ISBN 978-1-4143-3472-1 Prolific Bible teacher and women's ministry leader Moore (Get Out of That Pit) moves away from her characteristic dead-on expositions of scriptural principles in her newest; the topic is insecurity, and the content, she admits, is close to an autobiography. Moore, always transparent with her own personal struggles, is refreshingly so throughout this text. Readers will be chortling in laughter one moment and sucking air the next as Moore exposes the many faces of female insecurity. The author names and claims each one, then defuses every bit of power these nonsensical inner voices possess by countering their lies with God's truth. Women, no matter what their age, battle against advertising's siren call for unattainable physical perfection; the habit of making a man's love the ultimate validation; and the worldly definition of success as money, power, and status. Moore uses personal essays, women's true confessions, expressive prayers, and lots of commonsense suggestions to jar women out of their insecure rut. Readers will delve into this work and find themselves comfortably uncomfortable, and this is a very good thing. (Feb.) --Publishers Weekly, December 14, 2009 From the Inside Flap Dear Friend,Wex92re insecure. You and me and every woman. Lately Ix92ve been realizing more and more that chronic insecurity is a cultural epidemic, but almost no one is talking about it. And it ticks me off.Wex92re insecure about everything from our looks to our worth as women, from our relationships to our futures, and everything else in between. You name it, and wex92re probably insecure about it.Letx92s be honest here. Insecurity makes us miserable. It cripples us. It makes fools of us. It makes us feel worthless. Insecurity has been a bad friend to us. The bottom line is that itx92s self-sabotage.Girlfriend, listen to me. Our insecurities are lying to us. It doesnx92t have to be this way. Itx92s time to say, x93So long!x94 to insecurity. How? First we have to understand it, and the good news is that insecurity is understandable. The even better news is that insecurity is curable. Itx92s time we girls help each other out so we can be the best wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, and friends that we can possibly be. Letx92s have a chat, you and me, through these pages. Ix92d be honored if youx92d join me on my quest for real, lasting, soul-deep security. x97Beth Dear Friend,We’re insecure. You and me and every woman. Lately I’ve been realizing more and more that chronic insecurity is a cultural epidemic, but almost no one is talking about it. And it ticks me off. We’re insecure about everything from our looks to our worth as women, from our relationships to our futures, and everything else in between. You name it, and we’re probably insecure about it. Let’s be honest here. Insecurity makes us miserable. It cripples us. It makes fools of us. It makes us feel worthless. Insecurity has been a bad friend to us. The bottom line is that it’s self-sabotage. Girlfriend, listen to me. Our insecurities are lying to us. It doesn’t have to be this way. It’s time to say, “So long!” to insecurity. How? First we have to understand it, and the good news is that insecurity is understandable. The even better news is that insecurity is curable. It’s time we girls help each other out so we can be the best wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, and friends that we can possibly be. Let’s have a chat, you and me, through these pages. I’d be honored if you’d join me on my quest for real, lasting, soul-deep security. ―Beth Read more

Features & Highlights

  • 2011 Retailers Choice Award winner!
  • Perhaps one of the biggest issues all women face is their own insecurity. Beth Moore, one of today’s most admired and trusted Christian writers, wants women to be free from the insecurity trap.
  • So Long, Insecurity
  • will strike a chord with women everywhere, as Beth speaks truth into the lives of readers, showing them how to deal with their innermost fears, rediscover their God-given dignity, and develop a whole new perspective―a stronger sense of self. Women of all ages and backgrounds will resonate with this message of security and discover truths that will free them emotionally and spiritually and lead them to a better life as they walk with God.

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Not helpful.

I was hoping to find more helpful tips on how to overcome insecurity, but in typical Beth Moore fashion, all she does is repeat herself frequently throughout this book. I will no longer invest my time in reading her writings.
5 people found this helpful
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'So Long Insecurity...'

This book is a must read for every woman in the world. It's so awesome it's like taking a trip but not having to leave your house. You'll learn so much about yourself and feel so incredibly lifted. Quoting from the book, you'll be "clothed in strength and dignity." Thank you, Beth Moore for this wonderful eye opening book.
4 people found this helpful
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Goodbye Insecurity: Real Hope for Women

Insecure, troubled, dejected, disheartened, overly self-critical?
Sadly, that's the reality for a number of Christian women, too overwhelmed to embrace the marvels of grace as they frequently miss the sheer wonder and joy in each day the Lord bestows. Within the new book, "Insecurity: You've Been a Bad Friend to Us," Beth Moore provides the spiritual tools that will infuse fresh joy and wonder in the life of women who've fallen into the trap of insecurity and self-doubt.

The author (Beth Moore has written many best-selling books and is an energetic teacher who has touched women all over the world.) delivers a volume that will assist the reader "rediscover their God-given dignity."

This women's ministry leader helps women correctly understand:
- The wrongful goal of physical perfection
- The truth about aging
- The biblical perspective of love and relationship's with one's husband
- The true source and foundation for acceptance, joy, and hope.

Atheist Bertrand Russell erroneously summed up life as "unyielding despair." To find meaning in life, one has to look to the true and living God. He is the God of the living and He gives life real security, purpose and meaning. Life is a sacred gift to be unwrapped everyday with the joy of a child's birthday.

And may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, that you may overflow with hope through the power of the Holy Spirit (Romans 15:13).

I would add: Purpose, security, and meaning are pursued, attained, and sustained by a passionate pursuit of Jesus Christ. The non-Christian worldview leads to Heidegger's ultimate, yet empty answer, to the problem of the meaninglessness of life, "is to stand on deck and salute" as the ocean liner sinks. He tells us to do this because it is more visually appealing than doing nothing. That's real despair. That's depressing. Thank God, it is false. Following Jesus lifts one up into a wonderful, enthralling life in the Spirit.

Neglecting or rejecting God's purpose in Christ is:

1. Unproductive.
2. It leads to despair and emptiness.
3. It is prideful.

Furthermore I would propose: Meaning, purpose, and happiness come when I:

A. Look to God's word, follow Him and glorify Him alone
(2 Timothy 3:16-17; Luke 14:27).
B. Decide to focus on eternal things (Colossians 3:2).
C. Look for things in my life that need to be changed
(Psalms 119:11).
D. Ask others what my character flaws are (Proverbs 15:22).
E. Be amazed about Jesus again (Galatians 2:20)!
F. Trust Jesus - believe in Him for all things (John 14:1;
Ephesians 3:20).
G. Pray (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
H. Look to the Gospel (Rom. 1:16; 1 Corinthians 15:3-4).

Nevertheless do not rejoice in this, that the spirits are subject to you, but rather rejoice because your names are written in heaven (Luke 10:20).

Moore's new book has reached the NY Times best-selling list and it is a fine volume that will help lift one's soul as you focus on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith.
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3 people found this helpful
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We need to memorize this book!

Beth Moore can be a little high strung and long winded, but if you can "persevere" with her (her words, not mine), she really does make a lot of sense and has written a great book. As much as we like to fake it, all women struggle with insecurity in one way or another. Insecurity has a way of making us over-analyze, over-explain, over-compensate and basically alienates us from people. She makes a great case that perfectionism is actually insecurity and when you really think about it, it's true. Fear of failing can prevent us from relaxing, cause us to push others to the extreme and basically makes us appear foolish. Unlike some reviewers, I do appreciate that she discussed looks and appearance extensively because women are held to a different standard than men and it's easy for us to get sucked into the hype. We need to remember what God told Samuel "Do not be concerned with his height or appearance, for man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart."
2 people found this helpful
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If you're a Christian woman, READ THIS!

I loved this book. If you're considering buying this - DO IT! I don't normally say things like that in reviews, I just give my opinion. That being said, I have enjoyed this book and the insights it's brought me more than I could have imagined. Beth Moore has a gift for making this subject funny while getting to the heart of the matter. I enjoyed her style of writing, the wide array of topics she addressed within the subject of women's insecurity, and the way this book was approached. I found myself scribbling away in margins and half of the book is hilighed (I started out wanting to mark things that I could reference later and remember when I needed a boost or a reminder but that's how much I got out of it). There may be pieces of the book that don't resonate with you, but there is so much in this book I think that the vast majority of it will. Plus, her topics are addressed conversationally and succinctly so if there is a piece that isn't applicable to your particular situation, you'll hardly know it's there. Again, I think if you've clicked on this book to consider getting it even for a second, do it - you won't regret it - I was unsure and I'm so grateful I did.
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So true.

There is something in this book for every woman. My 16 year old daughter and I are reading it together and it is strengthening our relationship with each other and with God. Opens your eyes to why we do some of the things we do, and helps you to end the destructive cycle of insecurity.
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Seller and my perception of his description varies greatly

Should have been listed as almost like new. Spine was broke (you would probably need to be a die hard, handbook snob to understand phrase), like someone, had read it. There were scratch marks on book cover. Both the top and the bottom of the spine looks like it had been place on the book self.
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A must read!!

This book is life altering!!! I highly recommend it to everybody but especially young women in their late teens and 20's. It will save you years of pain and bad decisions if you can learn this early. Knowing you can feel ______ emotion (fill in with anything) and not feel insecure at the same time (often adding to the pain of said emotion) is awesome!! Even if you don't suffer from extreme insecurity this book will help you see yourself and others in a different light.
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but didn't like some of the slang terminology

interesting, but didn't like some of the slang terminology, such as "ticked"; as a Christian book, I thought the words should have been more literal.
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EXCELLENT!

SO GOOD! Excellent teacher and writer, Beth humbly shares insights into how we easily get trapped into feeling and thinking insecure thoughts about ourselves that aren't true. Get it. Read it. Apply it.
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