White Like Her: My Family's Story of Race and Racial Passing
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White Like Her: My Family's Story of Race and Racial Passing

Hardcover – Illustrated, October 17, 2017

Price
$14.99
Format
Hardcover
Pages
316
Publisher
Skyhorse
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-1510724129
Dimensions
6 x 1.1 x 9 inches
Weight
1.04 pounds

Description

“Lukasik takes us inside her family story, revealing that her own mother chose to live as a white woman. Lukasik, bravely and eloquently, writes with a researcher’s eye and a daughter’s heart. In righting her own history, Lukasik graciously affords us the opportunity to right our own.” —Goldie Taylor, editor-at-large of the Daily Beast “Meticulously researched . . . Offers new insights into issues surrounding the complex history of racial passing in the United States . . . a narrative made compelling by her deeply felt emotional responses as she excavates her own heritage. This is a book which will elicit much discussion among diverse audiences, adding, as it does, to the too often elusive American tapestry.” —Ronne Hartfield, author of Another Way Home: The Tangled Roots of Race in One Chicago Family “Important in helping us understand America’s complex racial history . . . Adds to the ongoing conversation about race and racial identity in America because it looks at the ramifications of institutionalized racialism and racial passing through one family’s story.” —Kenyatta D. Berry, Host of PBS’s Genealogy Roadshow “In White Like Her , Lukasik, with the persistence and canniness of the sleuths as the detective novelist she sometimes impersonates, explores how complicated race is in America.” —Randy Fertel, author of The Gorilla Man and the Empress of Steak: A New Orleans Family Memoir “Lukasik takes us inside her family story, revealing that her own mother chose to live as a white woman. Lukasik, bravely and eloquently, writes with a researcher’s eye and a daughter’s heart. In righting her own history, Lukasik graciously affords us the opportunity to right our own.” —Goldie Taylor, editor-at-large of the Daily Beast “Meticulously researched . . . Offers new insights into issues surrounding the complex history of racial passing in the United States . . . a narrative made compelling by her deeply felt emotional responses as she excavates her own heritage. This is a book which will elicit much discussion among diverse audiences, adding, as it does, to the too often elusive American tapestry.” —Ronne Hartfield, author of Another Way Home: The Tangled Roots of Race in One Chicago Family “Important in helping us understand America’s complex racial history . . . Adds to the ongoing conversation about race and racial identity in America because it looks at the ramifications of institutionalized racialism and racial passing through one family’s story.” —Kenyatta D. Berry, Host of PBS’s Genealogy Roadshow “In White Like Her , Lukasik, with the persistence and canniness of the sleuths as the detective novelist she sometimes impersonates, explores how complicated race is in America.” —Randy Fertel, author of The Gorilla Man and the Empress of Steak: A New Orleans Family Memoir Gail Lukasik was born in Cleveland, Ohio, and was a ballerina with the Cleveland Civic Ballet Company. She has worked as a choreographer, freelance writer, editor, and college lecturer. Recently, Gail appeared on PBS Genealogy Roadshow (St. Louis Central Public Library). She said, "I'm a mystery author who's never been able to solve my own family mystery." The show solved the mystery and revealed her mother's life-changing secret. PBS was so intrigued by her story that they invited her back to update her story. She is also the author of several mystery novels featuring the character Leigh Girard. Kenyatta D. Berry is a genealogist, businesswoman, and lawyer with more than fifteen years experience in genealogical research and writing. She is a host of the PBS broadcast Genealogy Roadshow and is the Past President of the Association of Professional Genealogists (APG) and on the Council of the Corporation for the New England Historic Genealogical Society (NEHGS) in Boston. A frequent lecturer and writer, her area of focus is African American and Slave Ancestral research.

Features & Highlights

  • As seen on
  • The Today Show!
  • “Important in helping us understand America’s complex racial history.”—Kenyatta D. Berry, Host of PBS’s
  • Genealogy Roadshow
  • White Like Her: My Family’s Story of Race and Racial Passing
  • is the story of Gail Lukasik’s mother’s “passing,” Gail’s struggle with the shame of her mother’s choice, and her subsequent journey of self-discovery and redemption.In the historical context of the Jim Crow South, Gail explores her African-American mother’s decision to pass, how she hid her secret even from her own husband, and the price she paid for choosing whiteness.Haunted by her mother’s fear and shame, Gail embarks on a quest to uncover her mother’s racial lineage, tracing her family back to eighteenth-century colonial Louisiana. In coming to terms with her decision to publicly out her mother, Gail changed how she looks at race and heritage.With a foreword written by Kenyatta Berry, host of PBS's
  • Genealogy Roadshow
  • , this unique and fascinating story of coming to terms with oneself breaks down barriers.

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"White" Woman learns She is "Mixed"

I found this very good. Gail knew nothing about her paternal grandfather other than his name. Her mother claimed she knew nothing as her parents had divorced and she had been raised by her great grandmother and cousin.The story is a little sad how Gail's mother distanced herself from her paternal side of the family and even a few of her mother's family. When Gail gets into genealogy and finds her grandfather in a census record she sees he is listed as black. She sends off for her mother's birth certificate which lists her as "colored." Gail confronts her mother who first denies but later begs her not to tell until after she is dead. Gail keeps her promise for 17 years until her mother's death but continues her research. After her mother's death she is free to write this book. In it she gives us what she learned about her ancestors and in one line she can go all the way back to an ancestor who came to Louisiana as a slave. It is a bit confusing as she goes into ancestors on both of her parent's sides but in the hard copy of the book Gail has given us a genealogy tree we can reference. I loved it. Some reviews said it was boring and too detailed but I found it fascinating. I also liked her many side stories such as a DNA cousin she discovered also "white" but they do not know how they connect, only that both of their families came from New Orleans. This woman only found out about her mixed race ancestry when her child was born with cickle cell anemia and was very ill at birth. The woman's parents genuinely knew nothing but her grandparents (who left New Orleans) claimed the doctors "lied" to her even though they had found she was the carrier. Even with the proof staring them in the face they would tell her nothing. Then there is also the sad truth that Gail's mother thought she was going to an easier life but ended up with an abusive alcoholic husband. That is the saddest part to me. Her mother gave up her family for an unhappy life.
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Lukasik's family history will be familiar to followers of PBS's ...

Lukasik's family history will be familiar to followers of PBS's "Genealogy Roadshow." Her book provides the backstory and the details behind her quest to understand her mother's life. Investigating family secrets, and tracing down her family tree, Lukasik also traces the history of our nation's institutionalization of racism and the arcane, often bizarre legal structure which legislators cobbled together in the decades after Reconstruction, many of which laws remained on the books until relatively recent times. In her book, Lukasik shows the intertwining of these histories and puts the human perspective on our nation's shameful past. It's truly a thought-provoking story, one very much for our times.
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Mixed White in America

The author has done a great disservice when she might otherwise have made a positive contribution. Instead of using her mixed-white Creole mother's story to point out that whiteness in America is also multiracial, she instead accepts a myth of white racial purity. There has never been absolute agreement about who is "white" in this country and even many Southern towns had white families who were known to have some small amount of African ancestry." The author's mom was a mixed-white Creole and NOT a black. It's ironic that Louisiana's racist suppression of Creole ethnic identity is presented as something good instead of condemned as evil. The author's "research" (or what "passes" for it) is also very poor. The only real scholarship on actual people (as opposed to cheap novels, movies, etc.) who dealt with challenges to their whiteness om courts of law has been done by Frank W. Sweet Legal History of the Color Line: The Rise and Triumph of the One-Drop Rule and Daniel Sharfstein The Invisible Line: Three American Families and the Secret Journey from Black to White. Other excellent work has been done by Virginia Dominguez White By Definition: Social Classification in Creole Louisiana. There's more, but these are the BASICS and they are not in the bibliography.

A.D. Powell
Author, "Passing" for Who You Really Are
[[ASIN:B005EM9LEU Passing For Who You Really Are: Essays in Support of Multiracial Whiteness]]
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Like the mystery writer Gail is

Like the mystery writer Gail is, she was able to sleuth out the secret that her mother kept her whole life. The author sets out and finds the mystery, never giving up, and she allows her readers to see how she does it.

The book is a fascinating read. At times it is painful and sad but so eloquently written. The story is a testimony to what one race of people had/has endured and the courageous secret of one woman, who I saw as a true Hero, as well as the author.

For all these reasons and more, I loved the book and recommend it. It is a Five Star read.
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Offensive and oblivious

Deeply problematic on so many levels that I can’t possibly do justice to them all. A few examples:

The author can’t imagine why someone who can pass as white wouldn’t want “to lead a better life.”

In her eyes, everyone who is not white wants to pass as white.

She mentions “some protests” that happened in Ferguson.

I had to stop when she called people passing as white “sly.”

In short, this is an interesting genealogy story blown way out of proportion and told by someone who lacks the self-awareness to see how deep her racism goes.
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TERRIBLE!!!! THE MOST POORLY WRITTEN BOOK I HAVE EVER READ.

This book was such a disappointment. I'd liken it to ordering filet mignon and getting a chicken nugget. The author mentions that she has written other books, it's like commercials in the text. It starts out great and trails off into a mind numbing pish posh...... Obviously I do not recommend this book.
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Too drawn-out to keep my attention

An interesting story that could have been told in about half the number of words and pages, but probably the publisher insisted on the author's stretching by adding (boring to me) details in order to reach a certain number of pages. In the process, it lost my attention. Sorry
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Focus on "Her"...leave out the rest.

I found the genealogy stuff not all that interesting. To me that is not a story that the outside world would or should find all that interesting. The story of the mom IS the story and the only thing I connected to. It is not just that her mom was "passing" that I found interesting. Everything she wrote about her mother I connected to. It makes you wonder why people are the way they are and how much you ever really know about those closest to you. I feel the author should have edited out all the ancestor stuff and focused on what she knew (or never knew) about her mom.
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Old Family Stories Aren't Always Accurate! :)

I discovered my own mixed race ancestry in 2013 for the first time through DNA testing and a cousin's research. Went to a family reunion and met many relatives who shared ancestors with me
on my Dad's side of the family. I had grown up being told that they were English and Native American...not true! I had English and Irish ancestry...and West Subsaharan African! I could relate to so many of the author's feelings and questions as she processed her newfound truth. Mine enriched my life! ♡
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Compelling Story on Racial Identity and More

As a skilled mystery writer, Gail presents us with a compelling mystery novel on how she uncovered the identities of many of her ancestors. The horrific impact of the arbitrary definitions of race are laid bare. Yet, there are many other wonderful stories being told as well: those of resilience, self-awareness and the sacrifices that parents make for their children.
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