The Emotionally Unavailable Man: A Blueprint for Healing

I think this book is great for people that are having communication problems with their partners and their family's . The book has helped my wife and I see that the root of our problems, were from the way we were treated at our young age. This has opened up our eyes to help us see and understand who we really are.
I have PTSD from my time spent in Vietnam, and I can see that my childhood had a big part in my being more receptive to the trauma of war. This book has given my wife and I the tools to work on our marriage, and with the help of the tools I have gotten from the Va Mental Health Clinic, we feel that after forty eights years of marriage we have a start on a new journey. The Serenity Prayer has been a big part of my life now. Serenity, Courage, and Wisdom.

This is THE most amazing book I've read on relationships and understanding how both men and women are conditioned to play their parts in this dynamic, esp. in reference to how we're conditioned as children. Women are taught to buy into the belief that a prince will one day come along and meet every need they have and they will live happily ever after. But how is that possible when little boys are taught not to feel, to cut off their emotions? God forbid a man should express emotions! They will be viewed as a less than a man if they do. That's a problem for both men and women. I'm beginning to see things from the man's point of view, to understand that there are things I can do to not only allow him to express his needs and feelings, but to help him do so by changing the way I communicate with him; to ultimately open up a way for open, honest communication between us.
I can see what's happened in my past relationships to cause failure on both of our parts. And it's truly been an eye-opener. When all is said and done, I'm responsible for meeting my own needs and creating my own happiness. And it takes the pressure off of the man to fulfill my needs when he may not even know how to fulfill his own.

This book provides easy to grasp concepts that outline the problems and potential solutions for couples who lack emotional closeness due to the man's unavailability. Instead of blaming the man however, the intent is to educate both partners from each other's point of view, so that each can work on his or her own self to improve relationship connections. One of the few books my husband feels really "gets" him, and inspired him.

I have read hundreds of self help books. This book outshines them all. It is an illuminating read whether you are the man or the woman in an emotionally blocked relationship. This book hits the nail on the head and really helps you understand how dysfunctional beginnings can dictate all of our primary relationships throughout our entire lifetime, unless we do something about it. I loved this book and have purchased five copies to give to friends.

This book was extremely helpful in helping me understand the passive man in my life. It validated my feelings and help me to understand our relationship in a way that has helped conquer most of our issues. One half of the book was for me and the other half was for him to read. It improved our relationship tremendously. It also helped me learn how to work better with my passive/aggressive employer.

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Its simple language made me realize a lot about emotionally unavailable people. I am one of them! and I am working on fixing that for myself....

Wonderful book, somewhat repetitive but very useful and definitely helped me through a rough patch. Information useful for all relationships

This book is the best of the 5 books on commitment that I have read. Her explanation of emotional incest is especially strong.

Patti Henry's book is the most helpful, common sense book I have read on relationships. No matter how you feel your problem plays out, you will find understanding and helpful insight into a problem that is probably most common to all relationships - lack of communication. What is especially encouraging, particularly for men, is that this book is written with much empathy for the situation that many men are in. With this book, however, there is no excuse for them to stay there! A 'must read' for all who desire healthy relationships, for themselves and their children.