The Dark Night of the Soul: A Psychiatrist Explores the Connection Between Darkness and Spiritual Growth
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The Dark Night of the Soul: A Psychiatrist Explores the Connection Between Darkness and Spiritual Growth

Paperback – February 1, 2005

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$16.39
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224
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978-0060750558
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5.31 x 0.5 x 8 inches
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6.3 ounces

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“May’s book uses the same title in an attempt to both clarify and amplify St. John of the Cross’s original work, and to place it in a modern setting.... A vivid picture of a young man with a deep love for God and brilliant intellect.” — Conversations Journal Gerald G. May, M.D. (1940-2005), practiced medicine and psychiatry for twenty-five years before becoming a senior fellow in contemplative theology and psychology at the Shalem Institute for Spiritual Formation in Bethesda, Maryland. He was the author of many books and articles blending spirituality and psychology, including Addiction and Grace , Care of Mind/Care of Spirit , Will and Spirit , and The Dark Night of the Soul . Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. The Dark Night of the Soul A Psychiatrist Explores the Connection Between Darkness and Spiritual Growth By Gerald G. May HarperSanFrancisco Copyright © 2005 Gerald G. MayAll right reserved. ISBN: 9780060750558 Chapter One Half a Friar The Story of Teresa and John That Jews and Christians, together with Muslims, can live in amity, respecting differences while honoring commonalities -- that this is no pipe dream -- is proven by the fact that, for centuries, they did just that.-- James Carroll Jews, Christians, and Muslims did indeed live in harmony in a time and place that "some remember as a kind of paradise." It is known as the convivencia, the "living together." The time was between the ninth and twelfth centuries, and the place was Spain. As Carroll recounts it, it was a time when Muslims opened the doors of their mosques for Christian worship services and when Jews were schoolmasters for Christian children. This rich cross-fertilization of faiths and cultures produced famous universities and renowned thinkers, including the great Jewish philosopher Moses Maimonides, who chose to write not in Hebrew, but in Arabic. Religious warfare originating outside Spain began to dismantle the convivencia in the twelfth century, but vestiges of its rich heritage lasted into the sixteenth century, the time of Teresa of Ávila and John of the Cross. In many ways, Teresa and John inherited the creative legacy of the convivencia. John of the Cross will forever be credited for the idea of dark night of the soul, but the inspiration wasn't his alone. John acknowledged his indebtedness to a number of previous authors, including an obscure sixth-century mystic who wrote under the name of Dionysius and spoke of "a ray of darkness." Of all those who influenced John's work, however, the most important was Teresa, the woman he called his spiritual mother. Though he seldom acknowledged her as a source, nearly all of John's imagery and most of his fundamental insights can be found in Teresa's earlier writings. Thus to appreciate the meaning of the dark night, we must start with Teresa of Ávila. Teresa In the rugged central highlands of Spain, fifty miles west of Madrid, is the ancient walled city of Ávila. It lies on the Adaja River, in a valley between two great mountain ranges: the Sierra de Gredos to the south and the Sierra de Guadarrama to the east. Teresa was born there in the cold early spring of 1515. It was the last year of the reign of King Ferdinand; Isabella had died a decade earlier, after establishing the Spanish Inquisition, putting a formal end to the convivencia by expelling all Jews from Spain, and sending Columbus to the New World. Balboa had just claimed the entire Pacific Ocean in the name of Spain, and treasure from the Americas was making Spain the wealthiest and most powerful empire in the world. Elsewhere, Leonardo da Vinci had just painted the Mona Lisa and Michelangelo had finished his sculpture of David. Copernicus was developing his claim that the planets revolve around the sun, and two years later Martin Luther would nail his theses to the church door in Wittenberg. Teresa was born into a wealthy family of textile merchants. Her grandfather had been a converso, a Jew forced to convert to Christianity by the Inquisition. Her father saw to the education of his twelve children and made sure his daughters learned to read and write at home -- there was no public education for women. Teresa was bright, spirited, adventurous, and, like many children of the time, fervently religious. At the age of seven, inspired by reading the lives of the saints, she and a brother tried to run away from home and become martyrs, "to go to the land of the Moors ... and have them cut off our heads." They were apprehended at the edge of town by an uncle, who returned them to their worried mother. "Our greatest obstacle," Teresa later wrote, "was that we had parents." When Teresa was twelve, her mother died. Soon thereafter, her father noticed that Teresa's passions had shifted from spirituality to romance novels and, of course, to boys. Concerned about her future, he sent her to a convent school when she was sixteen. He never wanted her to become a nun and could not have foreseen that her passions would revert, as they soon did, to prayer and a growing call to religious life.Because her father was strongly set against her becoming a nun, Teresa struggled mightily with the decision. Perhaps in part because of this conflict, she fell ill. The illness, the first of many that were to plague her the rest of her life, forced her to leave the school. Her recovery took nearly two years, during which her sense of call to religious life grew even stronger. Finally at the age of twenty, she convinced her father of her determination and became a Carmelite novice. Less than two years after her profession as a nun, she again became ill, eventually suffering a paralysis of her legs that kept her an invalid for three years. Then, at the age of twenty-seven, while praying to St. Joseph, she experienced what she felt was a miraculous recovery. In that same year, 1542, less than thirty miles away in the small village of Fontiveros, John of the Cross was born. John John's father, like Teresa's, had come from a wealthy family of textile merchants. But the family disowned him when he married John's mother, a poor weaver far beneath his social station. Thus, unlike Teresa, John was born into poverty. Worse, his father died shortly after John was born, leaving John and his mother and two older brothers destitute. After one of his brothers died, possibly from malnutrition, his mother moved to Medina del Campo. There she was able to place John in a church orphanage school, where he could be fed and educated. He excelled academically and as a teenager worked in a hospital as an orderly. We have no evidence that he ever considered any career other than the religious life ... Continues... Excerpted from The Dark Night of the Soul by Gerald G. May Copyright © 2005 by Gerald G. May. Excerpted by permission. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc. solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site. Read more

Features & Highlights

  • Now in paperback: a distinguished psychiatrist, spiritual counsellor and bestselling author shows how the dark sides of the spiritual life are a vital ingredient in deep, authentic, healthy spirituality.
  • Gerald G. May, MD, one of the great spiritual teachers and writers of our time, argues that the dark 'shadow' side of the true spiritual life has been trivialised and neglected to our serious detriment. Superficial and naively upbeat spirituality does not heal and enrich the soul. Nor does the other tendency to relegate deep spiritual growth to only mystics and saints. Only the honest, sometimes difficult encounters with what Christian spirituality has called and described in helpful detail as 'the dark night of the soul' can lead to true spiritual wholeness.
  • May emphasises that the dark night is not necessarily a time of suffering and near despair, but a time of deep transition, a search for new orientation when things are clouded and full of mystery. The dark gives depth, dimension and fullness to the spiritual life.

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A fabulous exploration in the soul and psyche of spiritual formation in the "dark night"

It is too bad that many folks will discount this book because it is (was) written by a psychiatrist. It is equally bad that many Protestants will avoid the book because of its Catholic heritage. I believe that even worse still, there will be those who miss the wisdom inside the pages of this book, who could benefit from the guidance and spiritual insight during their seasons of the dark night.

"At the outset I must confess that I am no longer very good at telling the difference between good things and bad things." -The Dark Night of the Soul; Gerald May, M.D.

I rather wish the title of this book had been different. I think it gives a false impression of what the subject really explores; although, it does address the dark night of the soul. May uses the backdrop of the writings from St. Teresa of Avila and St. John of the Cross to lay his foundation for his exploration of the phenomenon of the "dark night" or spiritual darkness (which might also be known as spiritual awakening or enlightenment). I have read quite extensively from both Teresa of Avila and John of the Cross. Their writings can be something of a bit archaic depending on the translation and they can be somewhat romanticized within the context of their poetic settings. I say this to make a point that they can sometimes be difficult to completely understand. Despite his academic and clinical background, Dr. May writes clearly and in a very personal voice that I find very easy to grasp. His writing is warm, friendly, and very down-to-earth. He takes complex ideas and difficult situations and makes easy conversation with them. Not only was I enlightened by what I read, I was also comforted by someone whom I believe shared understanding of my circumstances and experiences.

What might be the greatest contribution of this book in my opinion is the synergy that Dr. May creates between the spirit and the psyche... perhaps another way of saying this is the convergence of the soul and the spirit. While some voices would discount the science of psychology, I believe it is helpful for us to understand the workings of the mind and soul. God instructs us to love Him with all our "heart, soul, mind, and strength." It is obvious then, we should pay attention to these various facets that make up the essence of human beings. It is my opinion that Gerald May handles this material with humility and reverence, which helps in bringing attention to the work of God in the process of the dark night. It might be for this reason that I most liked chapter five, Three Signs and Three Spirits, where May teaches at length about the psychology of the dark night... very, very good instruction here.

"As John makes clear, it is not God who disappears, but only our concepts, images, and sensations of God." -The Dark Night of the Soul; Gerald May (p.146)

Another very helpful chapter to me was chapter six, The Dark Night Today, where May discusses the dark night in modern contexts. While there is no substitute for reading the translated original writings from John and Teresa, Dr. May's exploration is arguably one of the best companion guides I have read to date and I have several expositions on the writings of Teresa and John in my personal library.

The book includes a very well annotated notes section and an exhaustive index at the end of the book. Personally, I think this is a book every Christian should read and I am very glad I did.
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An excellent distillation for busy/distracted people who still want to immerse ...

An excellent distillation for busy/distracted people who still want to immerse themselves in good theology and the staggering beauty of the work of St. John of the Cross and Teresa of Avila. I dogeared dozens of pages! Good for seasoned Christians, curious Nones, and people who are spiritual but not religious, it upends how we have culturally come to think of the "dark night of the soul" as a negative experience, and firmly re-roots it into a necessary and inevitable occasional reality in the life of all human beings on a spiritual journey.
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So grateful for this book.

I tried reading the Dark Night of the Soul by St. John of the Cross, but I couldn't continue, because I didn't understand a lot of it and it made me feel depressed. However, this book by Dr. Gerald G. May made everything so much clearer and it was a pleasure to read. I looked forward to reading it every day.
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True Identity

The Dark Night of the Soul looks at humans as three part beings - Physical, Mind (thoughts and Emotions), and a Life Force referred to as Spiritual by the 15th century St Teresa of Avila and St John of the Cross. It truly shows there is nothing new under the sun when it comes to humanity. We may rewrite, rescript, and rename things but our personal lessons and growth are the always the same. There appears to be three constants of growth in humanity: 1) the process of liberation or letting go from attachments, 2) the growing freedom for love of Divine (our higher source) and fellow person, and 3) Self-knowledge and the realization of one’s true identity in creation. A large part of this growth always takes place in obscurity or deep within protected from ego and any iniquity.
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When the dark becomes light

As one who is not formally a "believer" in any religion, but very much aware that there is a spiritual dimension to our existence - the universe is not just a big machine - I found much that was moving and resonant in this book.

In particular, I really responded to the re-interpretation of "dark" in "the dark night of the soul" as not being something terrible or scary or desolate. To realize that the translation is more like "obscure," "hidden," "secret" is - to make a rather bad wordplay - enlightening.

Although the experience that St. John of the Cross and Ste. Teresa of Avila describe can indeed bring a sense of loss or dismay, the succeeding dawn may help one see that what was lost was only the attachment to things not central to a Way (to use a Zen term.) And if these things in fact included lots of devotional practices, efforts at self-guidance, personal "work," then May tells us that the distinction between "meditation" and "contemplation" becomes important. The purpose-driven striving for spiritual growth that can dominate meditation practices is not ultimately the Way - he contrasts it with "contemplation" which is a condition not of passivity, which might seem to be superficially the the contrast, but rather of acceptance...free acceptance of a divine presence. Perhaps it is not too trivializing to mention an everyday phrase - "go with the flow."

Reading "The Dark Night of the Soul" I kept being reminded of some of Eliot's expressions of spirituality - of course in a Christian Catholic context - in "Four Quartets." I think they would make a good companion to May's book.
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The Dark Night of the Soul

I have read a lot of John of the Cross and Teresa of Avila, this book is a must for anyone that is interested in Spirituality. It explains how the read John of the Cross and Teresa of Avila. It is written in a way any one can understand. The book will answer a lot of questions for you.
I will always keep the book close to reread it.
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Speaks to many who have suffered.

This book explores the significance of major life events that cause deep suffering to many people. Suffering that nobody wants can change lives of some people whose whole perspective of their existence is transformed during the process of physical and/or psychological events that are experienced as deep suffering. If you have had such an experience you know what I'm saying. If you haven't and tragedy strikes, you can learn from it. Excellent book.
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Good book

The introduction will help the reader read with a grain of salt. There are some helpful passages. Overall, it needs to be re-written from a truly Christian perspective.
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A good introduction to the work of two great mystics

The author's psychiatric experience helped him recognize the validity of St.John of the Cross and St. Theresa's work. He was impressed by the similiarity to the work of Sigmund Freud who lived so many years later. This was not the easiest book I ever read. I'm surprised that other reviewers found it clear and easy to read. But it was worth the work. One interesting point the author made toward the end is it not only individuals who go through dark nights but couples, institutions and nations.
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Five Stars

Enjoyed reading this book. Unlike anything I've read. Recommend it highly to anyone on a spiritual path
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