From Fear To Love

A Parenting Must-Have...Honestly, it's the best parenting handbook I've seen for someone with a child that has difficult behaviors... Even if you aren't into reading, this book is a must have. Each chapter has a section over-viewing the key concepts of that chapter. If you just go through and read those key concepts, you'll gain a new understanding of your relationship with your child. If you are thinking of adopting a child, please read this book. If you have adopted a child, please read this book. If you yourself have been adopted, please read this book. If you're a parent and have nothing to do with adoption in any manner, please read this book... Being a single mom of a child with special needs has it's difficulties. I've read mountains of books in search of answer to make things easier for both of us. That's right. I said 'mountains'. That may be a slight exaggeration, but it's slight. I want my child to feel safety and comfort because I love him. I'm not alone in this. Most parents feel that way. When you have a child that has autism, brain damage, rage issues, control issues or trauma, it can be difficult to figure out how to proceed with your child. When you adopt a child, you have no idea exactly what issues you're going to be facing until you face them. Although this book is geared towards parents of adopted children, I strongly urge every single parent to go buy this book. Most of the behaviors described in this book are not only found in adopted children. (I know you know that, Bryan! I'm just sayin!) Not only does this book explore how to handle the issues we have with our children, Bryan goes into detail to explain why these things occur. Through reading this book, we gain a better understanding of how our children work, how we work, and how we can work together to build a stronger family. I love the way this book is put together. Honestly, it's the best parenting handbook I've seen for someone with a child that has difficult behaviors. Reading it through the first time, you gain a basic understanding for the principles based in the book. It's a lot like being at an inspirational seminar where you have a charismatic man urging you to find your parenting potential and reach it. Bryan is a cross between Emeril and the Shamwow guy. Well, in writing mannerisms he is. Add to that a genuine concern for families and it makes this book just amazing to read through. After the initial read, go back and reread the chapters that pertain to you. Underline behaviors and triggers that you find that are pertinent to your relationship with your child. Even if you aren't into reading, this book is a must have. Each chapter has a section over-viewing the key concepts of that chapter. If you just go through and read those key concepts, you'll gain a new understanding of your relationship with your child. Again, I know this book is geared towards adopted children and families. If you are thinking of adopting a child, please read this book. If you have adopted a child, please read this book. If you yourself have been adopted, please read this book. If you're a parent and have nothing to do with adoption in any manner, please read this book. A greater understanding of our children and how to handle them can only help. --By Literary Litter (Warsaw, IN USA)I am so glad I received this book to review as my 3 boys are adopted, and they are half brothers to each other. My boys are 1, 7, and 13 years old. I can relate to 90% if this book from the lying, defiance to aggression along with their ADHD that runs in their birth family. I have gone through these issues and this book really helps make things easier on the parents. You feel so much love for them even when they turn away you can not back down and threaten to send them back that is the last thing they want to hear. You never know how many foster families they have had to go through before coming to you and adopted them. I can say for my 13 year old he was in 6, my 7 year old 3 and my 11 month old thank goodness 1 family before we got him at 5 months. This book is a god send and so happy to have it. --babs-worldofbooks.blogspot.comThis is a life changing book that will give hope to so many families. It takes away so much of the guilt and profound sense of failure that seems to sadly be part of many families involved in adoption. For me, his statement that, until a child reaches his or her late 20 s there is still great opportunity for healing and change to occur, gives us all hope. For adoptive families that is such a major contrast to the usual doom of childcare experts and gives us the knowledge, based on brain research, that we can continue to make a difference in overcoming past traumas. Bryan tells us that healing happens in the home and the biggest difference in a child s life is a well regulated parent . This book will give people confidence in themselves as parents and to trust their own loving instincts. In contrast to many child care manuals based on traditional beliefs, Bryan s paradigm is backed up by the latest research in neuroscience. It is a highly accessible book with key points highlighted allowing readers to dip back in to be reminded and reassured that you can indeed move to Love --Jean Belton, UK Bryan Post is one of America s foremost child behavior experts. Founder and CEO of the Post Institute for Family-Centered Therapy. The Post Institute specializes in working with adults, children and families who struggle with issues related to early life trauma and the impact of trauma on the development of the mind body system. A renowned clinician, lecturer, and author of many books (The Great Behavior Breakdown, From Fear to Love and co-authored Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control with Heather Forbes), video, and audio programs, Bryan has traveled throughout the world providing expert treatment and consultation to a variety of groups. An internationally recognized specialist in the treatment of emotional and behavioral, he specializes in a holistic family-based treatment approach that addresses the underlying interactive dynamics of the entire family, a neurophysiologic process he refers to as, The secret life of the family. Post contends that these same dynamics become obvious and are visibly apparent in every relationship. He holds three degrees in the field of social work: a Bachelors of Social Work degree from East Central University in Ada, Oklahoma; a Masters of Social Work degree from the University of Texas at Arlington; and a Doctoral degree in Social Work from Columbus University School of Public Administration. A maverick in the mental health field, Bryan broke from traditional teachings in the late 1990 s and developed a dynamic theoretical model of human behavior which he coined the Stress Model. When fully understood and applied to nearly any situation the stress model can reveal underlying unconscious expressive states which can transform relationship dynamics. From the Stress Model theory he has gone on to develop both Family-Centered Regulatory Parenting and Regulatory Therapy which both have been taught at the university level, garnering Post international recognition. Of noted interest is also the fact that he has woven his therapy model into breakthrough educational experiences that are referred to as POST Camps for adults, parents, and therapists. These rapid results programs have been changing the lives of struggling adults, parents, and families for the past several years. Bryan is a retired Clinical Social Worker, speaker, author and entrepreneur. He lives with his family in Claremore OK.